Written by Ms. Berman
Dedicated to all of my SDHS students
"Have you tried acupuncture?"
"You shouldn't be eating XYZ..."
"Your brother can get you an appointment with the top neurologist in LA."
"You should take off the rest of the school year."
Though well-intended, these words come at me like porcupine quills as I am trying to decipher the recommendations the professionals are providing me. As I step outside myself, for a snippet in time, I realize that my life is momentarily not so different from that of some of my students. Suddenly almost everyone has an opinion about what I should and shouldn't be doing. I know that these suggestions stem from their love and concern for my well-being, and yet it is not my responsibility to please others. Sometimes in our attempts to calm and satisfy those around us, we drain ourselves of the energy required for our wellness.
The human body is a real life application (RLA) of Le Chatelier's Principle. When equilibrium has been displaced, it must work diligently to restore balance. At times, medical intervention is needed to assist in this restoration. The teenage brain, however, is also an RLA of this principle. It is taxed on a daily basis as equilibrium is shifted for a myriad of reasons and a young adult must utilize energy until the body has equilibrated. Being surrounded with positive people who provide a calming influence will enhance this process. Associating with critical, impatient, and demanding people can impede it.
If it is a challenge for me, a strong-willed, established adult, to remind my loved ones that I must pave my own way, I can only imagine the obstacles that some teens face. This post does not devalue the immense support that I receive from many wonderful people on a daily basis. Support being the key word here. It is merely a reminder to all of us, young or old, that even during difficult times we should be collecting data and having faith in our own hypothesis. This is not only what we have been trained to do, but it was what we were born to do... as the scientific method is within all of us. Sometimes we might just need a little space in order to recognize it.